RISE ABOVE THE EXAM STRESS

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It’s that time of the year again where stress supersedes the logic; because if you’d let logic prevail, you’d know that worrying will only leave you with more anxiety, fear, procrastination and lesser focus/ability to concentrate.

These problems only cause delay adding on to the pressure, making you less productive by the day. All the more especially when you are amongst those who did not balance studies and fun throughout the year. 

There is no compensation for hard work and a calm mind.  So, what should we do now with little time left? As the days of exams are nearing, we are bound to get stressed, however, there is a way out, but for that, we would first need to have a quick look at the deeper possible reasons triggering stress.

Parent Pressure: We have the need to prove to the parents that we are capable. Also, some feel pressurized because of fear of their parent, and suppression in extreme cases.

Self-Perception: Image that you have created about yourself in your own mind and that you also want to project.

Peer Pressure: Competing with desperation instead of motivation, in order to protect the image you like to project about yourself.

Studying together: Spending a lot of time in non-constructive discussions with friends, and visiting your friends home for studies.

Loss of focus or short attention span: 

  • Internal Distractions: Could be Inherent
  • External Distractions:
    • Noise from the kitchen, street, phones, guests.
    • Gadgets like phones, TV, internet, and computers.
    • Siblings who don’t have their exams yet.  

Negative Emotions:  Fear, worried about the future, disinterest in general, feeling low, trapped feeling, sulking, laziness, craving for entertainment, break from monotony.

 

Before we talk about the solution, let us all acknowledge that exams are the most vital and yet most normal aspect of a student’s life. They are nothing to be afraid of. Millions of people have appeared for the exams from decades, and they have all survived. They all are happy.  Millions more will appear for exams after you, including your juniors, younger siblings and even the newborns that you see today. They would all appear for the exams someday and will survive. You will too.

It is absolutely a natural process, much like our evolution.

Treat the exams like a computer game, or a console game challenge. When you win it, it will continue to gather appreciations for you, throughout your life.

Now, let’s find the solution to the reasons that add to our Stress.

Parent Pressure: No matter how awkward it may sound, nothing works better than talking to your parents; even if they are impossible, treat you like a kid and enforce their ideology. You just need to survive impulsiveness to escape or shut the door at them behind your back. You start by letting them finish first; even though if you know each sentence of theirs by heart. Keep a smile on your face, and you will get your chance to speak in of most scenarios.

If you still think it’s a problem, write a letter or an email to them. If some of their actions make you unhappy, talk about it or write to them. It should generate a positive response.

Self-Perception: We are living in the time of selfies and status updates. We need to know that the world doesn’t need to know about us all the time. It will be ok without our desperate and compulsive inputs unless you are a celeb, and getting paid for being famous. It’s ok to have a calmer social page profile. Call your friends instead, and if you don’t care enough to call them,  don’t worry about them worrying about missing your social updates and posts either. Take it easy a bit, at least for the time being, until the exams are over. This will reduce a lot of unnecessary clutter and restlessness from your mind, helping you stay fresh, focus better and improve productivity; just what you need right now. You will be less anxious as well.

Peer Pressure: Don’t succumb to competition. Again, just like playing a game, excel at your pace. You cannot be like someone else, and they can’t be like you. So, compete with the motivation that you will be better than yesterday. Every day counts. Even one step is better than taking no steps at all.

Studying together: It’s amazing to study with good friends who encourage you, infuse positivity and don’t put you down; but when a friend only creates distractions or a bragger, you are better off alone. If you can’t say no to your friend, take help of your parents.

Lack of focus due to distractions:

Lack of focus could be due to lack of proper nutrition and lifestyle disorders. It is advisable to consult a physician. You must also take proper sleep. It means turning your phone and other gadgets off, and then going to bed. If you have the heart to do it, lock them up during this entire preparation period. Boycott. Take it like a detoxification therapy, and later you can always boast about this boycott after the exams are over.

Other distractions such as noise can be tackled rationally. With a cool head, you can go a long way. So there is no point letting frustration dwell in you. Take suggestions from your parents. Yes, don’t be surprised, they can help.They are not the real reason of frustration. Your own mind that cannot tolerate, is.

Sibling: Also, don’t be jealous of your siblings who don’t have their exams yet. Count the good things in your life including your siblings and enjoy every moment, even if they tease or tend to distract you a bit. There is no better solution than a smile.

Negative Emotions: It’s complicated to tackle negativity. Remember one golden rule, if emotions are getting better of you, seek a professional help. You will have to tell your parents that you need it. The sooner the better because the easier it will be to get rid of the negative emotions.

CONCLUDING TIP: The best to quickly tackle your problems is to have a calm, composed and a sorted mind. You can attain it faster with meditation. It will not only help you reduce your anxiety, nervousness, and stress but also help you to increase your focus. Ask your parents and friends to join in, because everyone like to destress. Make it a part of your routine, like having lunch,  it will go a long way. Explore the “Single Section” from the Soundzyoga App for more help. There are some great modules to calm anxiety and meditation exercises that student can practice every day.

Whatever you do, keep in mind that you are amongst those fortunate people who have access to quality education, and that’s not bad at all. 

All the Best!!

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